The Kitchen Table Test
Before anybody buys, they ask four quiet questions: Is it safe? Does it make sense? Do I trust you? Does it fit who we are? When a deal dies, one of them was still open for someone.
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Re-open one stalled deal on its open question.
In this lesson
- Safe first. Say what could go wrong, and what happens then. Never "there's no catch."
- Make it make sense. Their numbers, their units. If they don't have numbers, ask how they keep score.
- Earn trust in small pieces. Small promises, kept on time.
- Fit for everyone with a say. Each person gets their own question: who decides, who influences, who might block. Include the people who might lose their place, and the outside voices.
- Log the open question. After every meeting: which of the four is still open, and for whom. If two are open, start with safe.
Field assignment and Friday review
keep your Morning Dig, opener and tally. Log the open question after every meeting. Re-open one lost or stalled deal on its open question. Friday: walk it with your manager and show evidence for every "answered." If it's still no, thank them, log what you learned, and leave the door open.
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Sources and credits
- The four buyer questions, calming risk before value, honest limits, trust as small promises kept, and each decision-maker's own question: adapted from published sales books. The lesson's names (the Kitchen Table Test, the four quiet questions, safe / makes sense / trust / fits us) are Ronnie's teaching labels, not the books'.
- Mapping everyone who's affected (including overlooked influencers), showing the bad news before they ask, letting the customer supply the numbers, and helping your champion explain it: adapted from published sales books.
- Their units: also covered in published sales books.
- Where the books differ (how much urgency or loss to use): we followed a combined playbook built from eight sales books and adapted for commercial insurance. Calm the risk first, name a real risk once with what you'll do about it, and no horror stories.
- Our adaptations: the lost-deal review, the open-question log and the Friday evidence walk-through.
- Ronnie's own experience: 30 years in sales.
Disclosures
- The meeting is a dramatized producer discussion. Producers, prospects, deals and numbers are fictional; examples are illustrations.
- AI avatars and an AI voice of Ronnie O'Dell. The lessons and opinions are Ronnie's.
- Educational content only. Not legal, tax or insurance advice.